I swear if I hear my husband say one more time how he can’t understand how staying at home with the baby all day be so tiring that I can’t get other things done around the house I might just throw his kid at him. He always says that he’s job is the hard one cause he gets up early and comes home late and deals with people’s bullshit everyday; well I get where his coming from but he has to understand, I deal with shit, literal, shit everyday. He gets paid for his efforts to get in the morning, I don’t. I get up in the middle of the night and early morning because no one else will.
Let me see him do it! Let me see him try getting work down around the house when you barely slept the night before cause the baby kept waking up to feed. Let me see him try functioning all day with 3 hours (max) of sleep.
Let me see him try not falling asleep in the afternoon with the baby so he can prepare dinner. Let me see him try going the the kitchen to eat and then hear the baby cry cause the baby realized he left the room. Let me see him try putting off going to the toilet until the baby finished feeding or is asleep. Let me see him try keep his cool when I come home and complain that he did nothing all day.
My mom was a stay at home mom and I didn’t seem so hard. I never heard her complain about it
unless we were being brats. She wakes up early, earlier than everyone in the house, she wakes us up one by one and then my dad, she prepares our breakfast, iron our clothes, packs our lunch, send us off, clean the house, do laundry, make us dinner, clears the table, wash the plates, prepares whatever will need for the next day, goes to bed and does it all over again. She made all that look so easy that when I found out I’ll be mom, I didn’t think so much of it. Now that I’m where she was 25 years ago, I came to the conclusion that it wasn’t easy, she was just superhuman. She had to take care of three kids and a husband, I only have one of each and I’m going out of my mind trying to accomplish everything in a day. I don’t think I’ve ever appreciated all the things my mom ever did like I do now. I feel terrible for the crap I put her too when I was at that rebellious teenage phase.
There are some things you’ll only understand when you’ve become a mom yourself So true. It’s only when you become a mother that you truly understand what being selfless is. My mom’s the greatest mom I could ever ask for yet she keeps telling me I’m gonna be a better mother than she ever was. But I’m just not really sure, I’m not even a quarter of a mother she is.
Back to my annoying husband, I don’t think he’ll ever understand how much work staying at home involves. No matter how many times I try to explain to him, he’ll never get it. He won’t get it cause he’s not a mother. We can switch places but he still won’t understand the anxiety involved in staying at home because he’ll cope differently. Even though he won’t ever understand, I’ll still rip his head off whenever he says I have it easy. Being a stay at home mom is the most demanding job in the world. He should be so glad I’m doing it for free. 🙂